SATURDAY, OCTOBER 10TH, 2020.-
Dealing with anxiety, especially if it's chronic, is not a simple task and especially when we strive to deal with it with solutions that don't work, but which we resort to quite often
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And what are those behaviors, tricks, or resources that don't work?
Well, it doesn't work to avoid or run away from those situations that cause us anxiety.
This attitude, very common, has an initial relief effect, but when we face again the situation that affects us will probably cost us more and the anxiety will increase.
This has been explained in an interview with EFEsalud by the clinical psychologist Pedro Moreno, for whom it does not work to avoid feeling either.
Alcohol or anxiolytics may be used, but the cause is not addressed.
The body will need more and more of these substances to reduce the bodily sensations caused by this emotion that our mind anticipates fears or misfortunes, which then often do not occur.
It's also no solution to avoid thinking, wanting to get distracted, bringing attention to something else, or blocking thoughts doesn't work in the medium and long run either, and so does it when you're looking for someone to vent and reassure you.
With all these resources that we use "do not attack the root of discomfort", but it is about reducing anxiety by means than in the long run, and according to Pedro Moreno, they will bring us more anxiety.
In his book "Chronic Anxiety, a Guide for Patients and Impatients" (Desclée de Brouwer), the author offers a series of activities and steps to follow to free himself from the "mental traps" that cause us this suffering.
Chronic anxiety: other solutions
His solutions are based on some meditation techniques, which he himself has practiced for many years.
Consider the specialist that calming the mind, "reducing that kind of mental echo" can be of great help to bring serenity and tranquility.
To do this, he says, a first step is to be more aware of what we think when we're wrong.
Then we must allow thoughts or images that appear spontaneously in our minds to be there, without doing anything to block or modify them.
"Realizing what I think and not letting go are two steps we must necessarily learn in our dance with chronic anxiety."
Cultivating conscious attention is the path proposed by the psychologist for whom the key issue is learning to be in what you are, the opposite is distraction.
"The art of being in what we are can be practiced with the daily activities we do every day such as showering, combing or brushing your teeth, but always avoiding having your head elsewhere."
When you start with the practice of meditation, Pedro Moreno invites you to persevere in four fundamental aspects:
1.- Be kind to your mind and yourself.
2.- Cultivate patience.
3.- Find the midpoint.
4.- Do not think about the results.
Consider that childhood education can influence one's later becoming an adult with anxiety issues, but it's about learning to "disable the mental traps" that lead you to develop it over and over again.
Thus he explains in his book that the mind is like a circus of several tracks and that what happens in our minds the important thing is not to go down to the track to mingle with the acrobats or tamers...
"Our place is in the stands, as mere observers of what happens there, without getting involved."