MONDAY, OCTOBER 12TH, 2020.-
Psychologist Javier Urra, first Advocate of the Child, writer and spreader, reflects on the situation we are living after the effects of the most difficult and traumatic moments of the pandemic, and how to mentally adapt to these new and different times ahead
Javier Urra holds a PhD in Psychology with a specialty of Clinic and Forensics, and a PhD in Health Sciences.
He is a professor in Therapeutic Pedagogy and Ambassador of the Ibero-American Association of Legal Psychology.
Academic number of the Academy of Psychology of Spain, Urra is Honorary President of the Spanish Society for the Study of Filio-Parental Violence (SEVIFIP).
A writer and contertulio in various media outlets, he was the first Advocate of the Child. He is collegiate of Honor in Psychology and has been awarded the Cross of San Raimundo de Peñafort by the Ministry of Justice.
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Life includes suffering, loss, death. Let us learn and teach to accept with serenity. We must not medicalize or psychologize society, we have to accept that sometimes things are not going well. Encouragement constitutes us and character is largely our destiny. It is the years that teach us to adapt to circumstances, although it is in our nature that longing and dissatisfaction are in our nature.
We have history and nature, and as Unamuno said, "he is the son of his own works". Life makes sense from a goal, a goal, which gives it a sense of fullness. Perhaps it is time to consider another way of being in the world, creating as much as possible a positive account of our existence.
Let us continue to seek "to be oneself", let us meditate on our future, overflow our perimeter of mental security, throw ourselves inward, that abysmal adventure in its depth, let us do it without fear of freedom, to make decisions, to face the problems of reality, to go through the portico of entry into thought. Let us look at the metaphor of life, aware that deep down it always has a snoothing of tragedy. Let's follow John Dewey's teaching: "learning by doing."
THE ESSENTIAL AND TRANSCENDENT
In these times that in a few years we will not believe that they were, we have appreciated that far beyond what is desirable, there is the essential, that in life it is about doing what one understands to do, and not doing anything, it is not about being involved in many things, but in the transcendent.
We must rebel against doom, show ourselves our capacity for self-affirmation and creative development. Let's remind Albert Camus, "You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life."
As a human species we know what it is like to overcome pandemics, it is the inner strength, the ability to verbalize, and a social network of support, together with creativity that will allow us to overcome trauma. Let's run away from run-out, toxic optimism.
Let's remember that we can be free in confinement and prisoners on the street. Let us not have, as Erich Fromm called us "fear of freedom". Let's regain the perception of control, show ourselves the ability to get up, set affordable and self-managing goals.
Let us not fall into fallow, a land with a waste of hope, it is essential to feel that the place of control, is in oneself, we make decisions, let us promote active hope, let us trust in the executive functions themselves.
Yes, let us ask ourselves whether the invisible, the coronavirus, will help us to know how to live, to face existence in another way, for example, will the objectivity of management be imposed on ideologies? I doubt it.
Many people say they will change their lives, the question is what, why, why? And they answer that to devote themselves to the essentials, to live, in less haste, with less stress. How far between desires and reality!
These pages are based on Psychology, a discipline defined by Ortega y Gasset as fabulously interesting, born of biographical commitment to public life, with disclosure from conceptual rigor, seek to point out the risk of gregarism, of the desertion of cultured minorities.
From the almost redundant me and my circumstances, let us think from our psychohistory, from society, our project of being, in a work of self-education of the spirit that animates us, from that intimate robinsonism, always surrounded by a social sea.
And speaking of individual and collectivity, given the perception of threat abroad, between freedom and security, something has been chosen for the latter, something to be rethred.
Beyond situations, we are individually responsible, now we can embrace doubt, face the many problems to try to solve them and not exorcise challenges by denying negative emotions.
In these similar times of simulation, where politics is based on hypotheses, let us value how we are interpreting the meaning of each situation, from intellectual honesty we conclude that certainty discourages growth. In the school of life, we face a demanding examination back to reality full of tension, anxiety and fear.
It is from our internal engine, from the continuous effort, that we will have to play our tricks, remembering that in life, as in the game of cards, the one who plays well, rather than the lucky one, ends up succeeding.
I do not believe that there will be many people transformed by this obligatory retreat and that we perceive that this is the society of exhaustion, always making, always producing, so many people who suffer a permanently stressed life, confinement has allowed them to be with their loved ones, with their peers, with themselves, and in time, they have liked silence, tranquility , serenity, inner peace, have been re-founded with paused thought.
HOME, DEFENSIVE CASTLE
We are seeing in some a resistance to leave the home turned defensive castle and it has its logic, we will end up attending some agoraphobia.
Fear cannot, or should not be seized, respect yes, but giving the maximum intellectual capacity to start doing and persist in action. Let us quote Antonio Gramsci: "In the face of the pessimism of intelligence, the optimism of the will".
Let us not live a reality based on a distortion of reality. And let us keep in mind, that it is one thing to want to become, and another to believe that it is already, let us be very careful in differentiating desires with reality.
We live in great psychological tension, and that confinement has been an instrument, not a punishment. Let us understand that the fears of the street are adaptive and logical, that so-called relief measures do not always generate a positive psychological reaction, which in isolation we have enjoyed (mostly) a sense of refuge, safety and even comfort. Now and as Vikctor Frankl described us, we are "looking for meaning."
Of course, not all of our plans will be fulfilled, even after temporarily generating a sense of community, of establishing a cord of neighborhood affection.
Of course in the confinement there are those who have lethargic and who have been very productive.
COMMITMENTS TO DEFEND
Now we have to point out, that relying only on emotion, without relying on reasoning, usually does not lead to anything good. Let us take the opportunity to question what we are committed to, and what we believe should be defended.
I believe that we are committed to strengthening health, providing it with means from budgets. And of course, we have seen very closely the reality of climate change, sensing the globalization of the pandemic, and feeling all inhabitants of the same planet, we have heard in the ever noisy cities, the birds, the bells, the silence.
Seneca said that "a person who does not reflect is unable to be the architect of his life". Therefore, with the thousands and thousands of dead, with their relatives, reality cannot be tuned, a story told, indoctrinated from obsolete ideologies, or play post-truth. They have a first name, surnames, and they will have an unforgettable memory, an unpayable debt, an inescapable responsibility.